First you hate it. Then you accept it. Then you come to depend on it. So said a convict, referring to solitary confinement.
Facing life as a single, senior woman, I wondered: Will eating alone, sleeping alone, and decorating only for me be like solitary confinement? It took a while, but gradually I’ve replaced feelings of isolation and loneliness with feelings of freedom and joy. My family members live far away, but I’ve found a surrogate family through my girlfriends. As I reach out, I meet more and more bright and caring senior women; some with partners and some without, but all with open hearts—ready to share decades of fascinating histories and ongoing creative ideas. I look forward to seeing their smiles and discussing our projects, sharing our wisdom, and laughing at the signs of aging we share. No, my life as a single, senior woman is definitely not solitary confinement. There may be only one name on my mailbox, but I have never felt more loved and less alone.
Many years ago after my divorce, I wrote a chapter for a book, “New Life Options.” My chapter was titled, “Living Alone: Puzzles and Polarities.”
It was an examination of the strengths and drawbacks of a single life. Over time, I have found the advantages far outweigh the drawbacks. My home has become a sanctuary.
I feel very fortunate to have my own home. It is always a pleasure to return to my sanctuary.
Living in a park like this with so many friendly people is a great way to enjoy living alone. The best of both worlds! The days you want company can be fulfilled by a walk or attending one of the many activities. My days are busy with either my hobbies & projects or tending to Old Man Jenkins (my 15 yr old dog) and Mr Beak (10+ year old parakeet) But we all need to keep active socially too, so…see you ‘round the campus!
Great topic to write about. We women can find so much with our friendships.
Pat
What a great topic to share c all the Senior women who live alone.
I think we need more up lifting stories how life changes for all of us.
Moving forward and adjusting to a single life can be what you make of it. I, too , have found friendships to be the key to living a full filled life.
Great job, Sheila.
Enjoy the smiles and photos too.
Love,
Susan Korn
Great post….You all make a beautiful bouquet of life ❤️